In this generation, most people think about the happiness they can get over the current situations they are in. With that, they somehow forget to focus on future preference. But why is that? What are the things that stop them from doing what they are supposed to do? How does it become a counteractive habit? What are people’s reasons for delaying success?
“It’s Not Yet The Right Time”
Though it may support the idea of not indulging into things that encourage regret, it hinders the possibility of knowing what decision is potentially good or bad. The society somehow lives in an era where waiting becomes a priority to avoid failure. However, they opt to get blinded by the real essence of doing things right at the moment. The ignorance of allowing time to create a decision leads to unmanageable disappointments, and that mentality hinders success. Remember, “People with a healthy self-esteem tend to view failure as an event. People with low self-esteem often view failure as fatal. This thought process pummels one’s self-esteem and overtime being a failure becomes their identity.” Counselor Monte Drenner said.
“I Still Do Not Want To Deem About It”
Yes, there’s no reason for people to push their limits, especially when they believe that the current situation matters most. Nearly all individuals’ ideas of success are the attainment of the things they currently desire. So when it comes to future goals, they often lack the motivation to go beyond it. However, not aiming for something in the future is more likely the same as getting stagnant for undesirable reasons. It’s not going to help someone achieve something when there’s a deprivation of goals, thoughts, and ideas.
“If It’s Meant To Be, It’ll Be”
People have this mentality that everything happens for a reason. They believe that if it’s not the right time, the universe will not allow it to happen. The impression of overlooking on stuff that is not there is their way of saying that things will soon fall in the right place, but only if it is destined to happen. There is a lack of self-compliance that pulls a negative vibe. The mentality is making every person blame their situation to “destiny” itself. From that instant, the will for desire loses its strength and eventually turn into a grayish world of emptiness.
“I’m Currently Happy Right Now”
Andrea F. Polard, PsyD once said, “Authentic happiness is relating to the entire universe. When someone relates and leaves nothing out, you can see it in the face and posture. There is a presence about a truly happy person, a look that says “Yes,” to oneself, to others, and to the world.” Every person’s idea of happiness differs from each other. Sometimes it can be as plain as getting hired on the best corporate job, eating on favorite restaurants once a week, traveling to unknown places, and spending time with family and friends in some occasions. Though all of these can currently bring joy on that particular moment, it potentially slows down the eagerness of wanting to become well-balanced in the way of life. That’s because some people stick into doing things that are familiar to them rather than working on a way that allows them to move forward.
Whatever people’s reasons are, when it comes to success, setting goals and priorities is a must. It’s not going to be about the focus on future reference, but the journey of the mindfulness itself. It will be a matter of control in suitable decisions on every situation that applies to a long-term best interest. “These mental health measures included one’s emotional state, mindfulness, resilience, life satisfaction, overall mental well-being, among other characteristics examined,” reminds John M. Grohol, Psy.D.