He cheated on you. Of course, you will get hurt and will break up with him, but you will find yourself to be the one most hurt in the end. You might feel as if you cannot do it and want to get back to him. That’s being human because you have been attached to him that you got passionate desire to be with him no matter what he has done. It is okay to cry, shout, moan, and get drunk just to get over him and then feel better.
Give Time To Detach Yourself
Give yourself a break and be in shock for a while. Stay away from everything that reminds you of him. Delete your chats and photos both from your phone and laptop. Stay away from everything that is about him, especially from him. Being friends with him will not help you get past the pain. You do not need to talk about something, because there is nothing between you now. Edna M. Esnil, PsyD says “Prioritizing daily self-care and making efforts to take action. Accepting that daily self-care is hard work and challenging.” It will give you the chance to move forward. Surely, grieving is distressing, but he is not the right person to comfort you.
The Right Therapy For Heartbreak
The thing you needed most during this time is a person who you can talk to and do things with. Meet new people or go back to things you used to do before it became him and you. Experience how liberating it is to be free from the stress of a heartbreak. Join a club and be with your friends whom you have forgotten to text or call for a while. Try every available avenue available to get past your heartache. “Whether you suffer from seasonal affective disorder or not, the evidence is strong that getting outside just for a little bit can be very helpful,” says Andrea Bonior, PhD, clinical psychologist.
Start Walking More
Keep moving and stop dwelling in your memories that hurt you. Walking is a very great activity. It is a useful exercise to clear the mind. I once read an article that walking is about putting your foot right in front of the other, and that is moving forward.
Have an awareness of your present moment. Avoid replaying or staying in the past or worrying about your future. Do meditation exercises by starting with your one conscious breath. Take time and feel like your breath flows through you, the rise and fall, and the slightest pause. Don’t panic if your mind begins to wander. You can always start again.
Now is the time when you need distractions. The more, the merrier. You can do a movie marathon, and get hooked on Netflix series. Watch all the seasons of The Walking Dead and see how the characters do what they have to do in order to survive. Consider this as a break or a vacation to gain a new perspective on other aspects of your life.
Read And Learn From The Masters
Read inspirational books and self-help books. This type of books will encourage you to be proactive by following the techniques the experts share on how to be in control of your life and do what you can to help yourself to be better.
“Couples often feel that they know and understand their partner, and are compatible on most issues. However, this is a mistake.” That is according to Dr. Chantal Gagnon PhD LMHC. Dealing with the breakup is hard, and it will take some time before you will get to the situation where you can confidently say that you have forgotten everything about him. But to get there, you have to do something today. In the process, do not give up because he is not your only one chance at love. There may be no perfect love, but there is a match for you who can make you happy and give joy to your life even if things are not that perfect.
Look forward to the future with positivity, you can tinder anyone who might be your “the one!”